How often have you doubted yourself after telling someone something that you observed about them and they become so angry that you regret saying it to them and it even leads you to doubt what you said?
About 3 years ago, I noticed something about someone and I felt the need to address what I observed. I told the individual about what I saw in them and they became so angry that it literally affected our relationship somewhat for years to come. They even expressed that I was the ONLY person to make that conclusion and that I was wrong. You know, I had to tell them that not because no one tells you about your nasty ways, doesn't mean you don't have any ways that needs to be changed. Sometimes we are afraid to tell others about bad attitudes they may have because we are afraid of how they may respond to us.
Every time this this person had an opportunity to remind me about what I said and how wrong I was they used that opportunity. I even started to think that I was wrong in my observation, but I held on to what I observed and I even explained to that individual why I said what I said based on what I saw in their attitude.
Fast forward a few years, I had the opportunity to speak to 2 family members of that individual who was very close to that person about some disclosures and guess what? They too had issues with that same person. Did they ever tell them and will they ever tell them? Who knows. After the revelation I took some time to think about myself and the many times I have doubted my observations and believes just to suit the likes of those who can't see what you see and of those who believe that not because something is being said to them that everything with their character is all good and dandy.
It's ok to be criticized just as long as there is need for change and it's of the outmost importance to look into ourselves when others bring certain things to our attention.
